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New Mom Survival Guide

I cannot believe that over 4 months have already passed since I gave birth to my sweet baby girl. It’s been quite the whirlwind so far and what people say is true– time really does fly by, especially once you have kids.  I want to tell her to stop growing so quickly — I feel like before I know it we will be celebrating her 1st birthday!

Even though these past few months have gone by quickly, they haven’t been easy by any means.  Being a new mom definitely has its challenges and I am so lucky to have an amazing husband and daddy to our baby girl.  Without him I don’t think I would have survived this far!;)

Other than having a great husband, here are a few things that I have found to help me during these first few months of adapting to life with a baby.

1. Support from family and friends – It is so crucial to have a support system from either your family or close friends.  In the first few weeks, it was so helpful to have people bring us meals, watch the baby for even a half hour so I could take a quick shower and actually blow dry my hair, and help us with chores around the house — which can seem nearly impossible to get done with a baby around.  So if someone offers to help or bring you food, just say yes! Trust me, it can be life changing — especially when you’ve only had a few hours of sleep, you’re still wearing your pjs with a top knot and are covered in breast milk.   

2. Baby wearing – This is what has allowed me to get a few things done on my own around the house while keeping the baby happy.  This might sound crazy, but I have a Moby wrap, a Solly Wrap, a SakuraBloom Sling, and an Ergo carrier.  And I have used them all.  Not that you need them all of course, but as long as you have some way to get both hands free while keeping your baby close to you, you’ll be able to do that load of laundry or put away the dishes — and trust me, you will feel like you just conquered the world.

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3. Support from other Moms (both new and experienced) – I have realized how important it is to not only have support from friends and family, but also from other moms.  It has helped me so much hearing another mom say “me too!” and to know that I am not the only one having a difficult time.  I started attending a “baby group” at Horizon Hills in Thousand Oaks and I have really enjoyed it.  Even if you don’t go to an organized group, just getting together with other moms every once in a while is a great way to share stories, swap advice, and simply vent.


4. Realistic expectations – I think this has been one of the hardest things for me as a new mom.  I thought that since I would be on maternity leave and staying at home with the baby I would still be able to get stuff done {I love making To Do Lists and crossing off tasks!}.  Not only that, but I thought after reading  a few books,  I really knew what the first few months would be like and better yet, how to get my baby to be a good eater, sleep through the night, etc. Boy was I wrong! Babies truly are a full time job and it helps to have realistic expectations to be more prepared.  It really is tough in the beginning, but also incredibly wonderful and joyful.  While I wouldn’t change anything about my daughter or my experience as a new mom, I do wish I had realized (that obviously) babies don’t always “go by the book” and sometimes you just need to take it day by day.  

5. Smart Phone or Tablet – I’ve never appreciated my iPhone more until becoming a mom. It has been so handy during the countless hours I spend breastfeeding, especially in the middle of the night!  I’ve actually been able to read a few books on my nook app while breastfeeding and I finally have time to check my email, browse Instagram (I’ve loved following other moms as well as the adorable baby shops) and Pinterest and play many hours of solitaire 🙂

6. Coffee – This is pretty much a no brainer.  You will need lots and lots of coffee for those sleepless nights.  I have always loved drinking coffee, but now it is essential. When you see moms posting pictures of their coffee on Instagram with #givemeallthecoffee #butfirstcoffee #musthavecoffee — they aren’t joking.  So if you don’t like coffee, you better start now!

7. Baby “Entertainment” – I put quotes around entertainment, because really at this stage babies don’t need to be entertained, but they do learn a lot about the world around them through play– and getting a spare 15 minutes to take a shower or pee in peace can be a life changer.  In our house we have an activity gym, a swing (which she still isn’t crazy about), a MamaRoo, a vibrating chair, books and baby toys.  I know it’s a lot, but we’ve had to try out different things to see what she likes — she’s a picky little girl.   You don’t need to go out and buy every new baby gadget you hear about, but having a few are very helpful.  I was fortunate enough to get hand-me-downs (thanks to my sister-in-law, Mandy!) and you can also purchase gently used items off Craigslist, garage sales, or Facebook groups dedicated to selling and swapping.   Side Note: despite all these gadgets, I’d have to say it seems her favorite entertainment is to simply watch my husband and I make silly faces and noises at her — which we love.


That’s a wrap for now on my new mama survival guide/tips — I hope you like it! And please, if you have some of your own, share with us! I need all the tips and tricks I can get, and I’m sure other moms would appreciate it as well:)

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Tanisha {LL805}

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