There’s no way I could have summed up all I’ve learned as a new mom in just one post, so this is my part 2. If you missed last weeks part 1 read all about it here. Before we get started I just want to reiterate how being a mom is such a hard, yet rewarding and amazing experience. I have grown and learned to so much in the past year as Reese’s mom and I really feel like I am a better person because of her. But man, it’s not easy by any means. I fail a lot. And I’ve come to realize that that is the norm, it’s expected.
None of us are the perfect mom. I follow the mom-preneur/blogger Emily Ley and I love how she is always talking about striving for “grace, not perfection.” We need to have grace with our kids, with our spouses/significant others, and most importantly with ourselves. So without further ado, here is part 2 of what I’ve learned as a new mom.
7. Patience is key. Boy oh boy is this a hard one for me. No one would tell you patience is one of my strong points 😉 Being Reese’s mom has been the greatest lesson in patience for me. My patience is tested everyday with her and I’ve learned that a whole lot of patience and grace goes a long way.
8. Baby apps. I am so not good at documenting things on paper. I have Reese’s baby book but have yet to fill out a single page since she’s been born. But thanks to a couple of apps on my phone (because we usually always have those handy) I kept track of her feeding/diapers those first few weeks, her doctor appointments (weight, measurements, and immunizations) and her milestones. There are so many good ones out there, but the one I currently use the most is called Sprout.
9. Your house will never be clean again. Ok I can’t say never, and I’m not saying it won’t be “tidy”, but it’s just not going to be the same. Babies just have so much stuff. And they love to throw things on the floor, especially food grrrrr. And they don’t care one bit about putting things away. And then you realize you are just going to take it all out again tomorrow so what’s the point really? Although I must admit I have now invested in someone to clean my house because I am one of those people who needs things to be clean for my sanity (especially when I see Reese picking up bits off the floor and putting them in her mouth!) and for me it’s so worth the money.
10. Start your morning off right. For me this means starting my morning with Jesus and coffee. I love the First 5 app by Proverbs 31 Ministries which notifies me of my morning (or whatever time you set it for) devotion that literally only takes 5 minutes. I also love the She Reads Truth app. It doesn’t happen every day of course, but I’ve noticed on the mornings it does, things go much smoother for me. So whether you start your day in the Word, with some yoga or meditation, or a work out class or run, it’s important to start your morning off right to set the tone for the rest of the day.
11. Trust your gut. People are going to give you a lot of unwarranted advice when you become a mom. And usually they really do mean well, but sometimes it’s just not what you need or want to hear. You know what is best for your child because you are their mother. So don’t take to heart what other people say (unless it’s something enlightening and helpful to you of course). You need to trust your gut and make your own decisions. That’s right lady in the grocery line telling me I shouldn’t be doing this or that because I will spoil my baby- pipe down.
12. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Like I said earlier, it’s all about grace not perfection. You, nor anyone, will ever be perfect, we all make mistakes, and we all have bad days. You are trying your best and tomorrow is a new day. As long as you love your baby and care for them the best way you know how, then I’d say you’re winning at being a mom. So don’t be so hard on yourself. And it’s ok to cry at the end of the day because we all need a good cry every once in awhile.
Tanisha at LL805